The licensed social worker and author talks about ghosting friends, building intimacy in platonic relationships, and understanding self-regulation vs. co-regulation.

What we fear the most is what we want the most.

In 2015 I got a second chance with a guy I thought was near perfect for me.

Plus, I answer your questions about friendship, love, and the election.

Each day, I kept a running list of all my thoughts, feelings, and what I was doing to help myself process and move through the haze.

I can’t deny there’s a part of me that feels empowered.

It is still possible to meet a kind, genuine, spiritually awakened, emotionally intelligent man on a dating app.

I have extremely high standards for who can have access to my body.

“Yes, I'm so unbelievably open to connection. Still, I'm not holding my breath until it gets here.”

“In the relationship with our parents, there's the good stuff, which is often what we also want to pull in our romantic relationships. Then, it's the not-so-great stuff we unconsciously pull in our relationships.”

I know I am not my relationship status, yet so much of my existence has felt rooted in this search for love

“I didn't have this romantic idea of the industry, but I had this dream, so I'm going to go out there and chase it.”

“Therapy is like playing the long game— most mental health issues are not quick fixes. “

I was more focused on “being” instead of “doing.”

Regardless of your relationship status there’s something for everyone.

The stigma around this act comes down to 3 things: religion, shame, and lack of education.

Let's be real: the human experience is weird, confusing, and beautiful, and none of us have any absolute control over our life's path.

It took me a long time before I was able to take responsibility for the fact that I was still a willing participant in the anxious-avoidant trap.

Much of my life and existence revolves around my career, so there's always this pressure to be evolving and leveling up.

I did not expect to meet someone so quickly after arriving in London this summer.