The licensed social worker and author talks about ghosting friends, building intimacy in platonic relationships, and understanding self-regulation vs. co-regulation.

What we fear the most is what we want the most.

In 2015 I got a second chance with a guy I thought was near perfect for me.

Plus, I answer your questions about friendship, love, and the election.

Each day, I kept a running list of all my thoughts, feelings, and what I was doing to help myself process and move through the haze.

I can’t deny there’s a part of me that feels empowered.

It is still possible to meet a kind, genuine, spiritually awakened, emotionally intelligent man on a dating app.

“Yes, I'm so unbelievably open to connection. Still, I'm not holding my breath until it gets here.”

I know I am not my relationship status, yet so much of my existence has felt rooted in this search for love

“I didn't have this romantic idea of the industry, but I had this dream, so I'm going to go out there and chase it.”

“Therapy is like playing the long game— most mental health issues are not quick fixes. “

The stigma around this act comes down to 3 things: religion, shame, and lack of education.

Let's be real: the human experience is weird, confusing, and beautiful, and none of us have any absolute control over our life's path.

It took me a long time before I was able to take responsibility for the fact that I was still a willing participant in the anxious-avoidant trap.

Much of my life and existence revolves around my career, so there's always this pressure to be evolving and leveling up.

I did not expect to meet someone so quickly after arriving in London this summer.

I used to call myself a “late bloomer” but that’s actually not a title I really identify with. That label implies that we have all agreed to operate on the same schedule in life. I certainly made no such agreement.

My favorite reads to help you sit with uncertainty and change, understand the complexity of female desire, or learn the basic principles for a more spiritual life.

I thought, I must be doing something wrong, or there’s something wrong with me because nothing lasted.

Have you ever been ghosted or rejected by someone to then find yourself unable to think about anything but that person? Replay all your conversations and every interaction? Find yourself thinking, if I could only just see them one more time.